Revisiting and Rewriting a Rant

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When I wrote Tolerating Intolerance, I was more than annoyed and a little frustrated. A rant is a passionate, loud, and often lengthy outburst of anger or strong opinion. I consider myself a passionate person, but “rants” conflict with my self-image. I might admit to controlled rants.

The original rant centered around two Facebook users who are using Meta AI glasses to secretly record their encounters with Amish people (including minors) and then post the videos on social media. The fact that the people are Amish could be incidental, except that:

  • Many Amish communities and individuals frown on photographs.
  • Amish people tend to be non-confrontational.

That combination makes them easy to exploit. So a few of us who support and admire the Amish formed a self-appointed group of advocates and have tried to raise awareness of the issue. For starters, even the Amish (who shun technology) are probably unaware that the glasses exist and are being used. There is also a strong case that these recordings are being made illegally, particularly in Pennsylvania, a state that follows an all-party (or two-party) consent rule, meaning it is illegal to record any telephone, electronic, or private in-person conversation without the consent of all parties involved.

From all appearances, initial efforts to interest the Lancaster District Attorney and the media have had limited success. A reporter from Lancaster Online did tackle the subject in a fairly detailed article. The DA did a legal two-step by complicating the issue and claiming the law hasn’t kept up with technology.

The reporter also interviewed Laura Flynn, the woman behind the glasses. In what must be the ultimate irony, she refused to allow the interview to be recorded.

Why do we tolerate someone else’s casual disregard for others? It’s not just a legal issue. Maybe we’re too quick, all of us, to rationalize and justify.

For my part, while in the Lancaster area, I’ve made sure my Amish friends know what she’s doing. One friend works at a location that’s already been recorded and featured. Another Amish friend with a home-based business feels vulnerable and wondered what she should do. We discussed some options, and as a partial strategy, I designed and printed some signage and cards for her.

Ultimately, it’s too easy to feel vulnerable in a society that often is uncaring and unkind. It’s not just a legal issue.

Aretha Franklin spelled it out for us in song. For those unfamiliar, it repeats the theme, “All I’m askin’ is for a little respect…” And if you’re willing to offer “R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me.”

Simple, really.

A sign could help. I realize not many Amish will see this post, but if you think a sign like this at your farm stand, business, or home might help, I’ll make one for you.

“Be your own artist, and always be confident in what you’re doing. If you’re not going to be confident, you might as well not be doing it.”

Aretha Franklin

Quick Quip #26-07

When I taught the real estate licensing course, I often joked that I could make students pick up their pencils. All I had to do was say, “This sounds like a good test question.”

It was fun and arguably effective, but it wasn’t great teaching. The best teaching is autodidactic. (If you look that word up, you’ve been autodidactic.)

Of course, one student chastised me: “You said it would be a good test question, but it wasn’t on the test.” I replied, “Gee, I’m sorry you learned it.”

Do you see what’s wrong with this picture?

Simple Memorials

Memorials may be simple; memories may not. Both are important.

Yesterday was the 25th anniversary of 9-11. One of the many thoughts that crossed my mind was the reality that most people under the age of 25 were not alive and will not have a firsthand memory of that day.

We can debate whether that’s good or bad. The best answer is, “Both.”

Those under 25 depend on the memorials and monuments we who were alive have created.

I did not know until yesterday about the memorials at Boston’s Logan Airport. One of the more subtle ones is the US flags that fly above Gates B32 and C19. These are the gates that the two aircraft departed from that fateful morning.

According to a recent Boston Globe article, when Logan’s official memorial was dedicated in 2008, then-Massport Chairman John Quelch shed further light on the flags’ origins.

“Both memorials appeared spontaneously, raised by airport and airline employees without fanfare or ceremony,” he said. “These two memorials are one and the same. And there is no grander memorial. That memorial is the flag of the United States of America.”

If there’s ever a second edition of my book, Memorials, Monuments, and Memories, there might well be an added chapter. The grandest memorials are the simplest.


You don’t have to be under 25 to appreciate some facts and memories. Here are a few to get you started.

  • The Tunnel to Towers Foundation is by itself a memorial that proves “We will never forget.
  • The World Will Never Forget 9/11 is exactly what it sounds like, an entire blog dedicated to keeping the memory of that day alive, from the Memorial Plaza to the stories behind it.
  • Ephemeral New York has spent years documenting the small, personal memorials tucked into corners of the city, the ones you’d walk past without noticing unless someone pointed them out.
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You’re Not Busy, Are You?

I haven’t counted, but I’ve heard a lot of people whining lately about how busy they are. Perhaps I’ve done my fair share of claiming busyness, although I try not to, partly because of a bias I developed a few years ago when I was asked by a client to teach “time management.” Since I believe prescription without diagnosis is malpractice in medicine, management, and education, I looked at what was going on in his organization.

I concluded that time management wasn’t the issue. Priority management was the issue. The corporate culture had developed an unintended value that appearing overworked and stressed was important. I joked that most employees seemed too busy to do any meaningful work.

There’s an old joke about the company president who issued the memorandum that “We will keep having meetings until we figure out why nothing is getting done.” Talk about confusing activity with accomplishment!

I suppose it’s always been true, but lately it seems like being busy is some sort of badge of honor. The busier you are, the bigger and shinier badge you get to wear. I think it’s contagious. I know it’s competitive.

If you’re a social media buff, see how many timeline posts you can find claiming, “Well, I don’t have much to do…”

Contrast that with those who are compelled to report their entire day’s schedule. It has a humorous aspect. “Gee, I’m so busy I barely had time to find these cute cat/puppy pictures to share.”

I’m sorry to say, I’m not impressed by busyness, particularly when it becomes a reason (excuse) for failure to do something others are depending on. I know several people who will spend a lot of time explaining how busy they are, how much they have to do, and how sorry they are they haven’t gotten to… I bite my tongue so I don’t observe out loud; they could have crossed a few things off the list in the time they spent telling me their story.

If your goal is staying busy, that’s not a difficult achievement. But it doesn’t necessarily equate to meaningful accomplishment. Doing nothing can be an accomplishment, too.

I had the good fortune to attend a few lectures by Ned Hermann back in the late ’80s. Ned was a true pioneer in the field of creative thinking and reasoning. He was also a great storyteller. In one of his lectures, he was explaining “theta” — those low-frequency brain waves associated with the early stages of sleep and the process of dreaming. They are also associated with enhanced creativity. He shared that he was sitting in his recliner, pushed back and relaxed, consciously entering a theta-like state. When his wife called to him to take out the trash, he replied, “Can’t now… I’m working.”

I don’t think it would have been any less true if he’d said, “Can’t now… I’m busy.” What might appear as “doing nothing” may have great value. It really is about value.

Busy is about being engaged–it’s not about being overworked and overwhelmed. Busy is not a bad thing when it means the busy person is anxious to contribute and is seeking action.

The question we may need to ask ourselves occasionally is whether or not we are busy (engaged) with things that are truly important. How we decide importance may be a different topic for a different day. For now, let’s agree being busy for the sake of being busy isn’t effective or efficient. When we think we’re too busy to do certain things, we’re really saying those things aren’t important. Or at least they aren’t important enough to make time and find the energy for, along with the other
stuff.

It sounds rude, but I’ve found myself wishing people would be more honest and offer the explanation, “That’s not something I’m willing to make important right now.” Being honest might be as important as being busy.

You’re not busy, are you?

Kevin Hart

Quick Quip #26-06

I have a mug that reads “Oh boy! This calls for a spreadsheet!” I recently did a “brain dump” about homeschooling that included some preliminary analysis that begs for a spreadsheet. (Hint: how much time in public schools is spent in actual learning?) I shared it with a friend and follower, Mary Meyer. She replied, “My goodness – you are really thinking about stuff these days,” adding that she believes thinking is fun for the brain.

Crossword puzzles are an example of brain fun, but almost anything that promotes thinking qualifies!

Are you allowing your brain to have enough fun?

Exploring simplicity in a complicated world