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Veterans Day 2024

Assuming you’re not packing up and leaving the country (sorry, I couldn’t resist), perhaps you’ll join me in celebrating our Veterans on Monday. I have a couple of ideas for us.

We could visit a Veterans Memorial or Cemetery. Contrary to some social media posts, Veterans Day honors both fallen and living Veterans. (Memorial Day is meant to specifically honor those who paid the ultimate price.) If the flags haven’t been removed for the winter, we could straighten a few.

We could go to a Veterans Day event. It may take some searching, or you could create your own. Put up a flag! Some years ago, during a trip to Arlington National Cemetery, a group of us ended up in an ice cream shop. Some folks come in wearing uniforms. With little fanfare, my young nieces Lindsi and Abigail paid their bills. Does that give you an idea for creating an event?

We could create a moment of silence. That sounds simple, but you can only concentrate on what our veterans have made possible for us all. My moment will include the poem, “In Flanders Fields.”1 An important stanza from that poem is:

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.

Sometimes I worry that we’ve caught the torch but dropped it instead of holding it high. That thought leaves me haunted by the millions of veterans who cannot sleep.

Moina Michael is credited with starting the tradition of wearing a red poppy and seeing it adopted as a symbol of remembrance for war veterans by the American Legion Auxiliary and by Earl Haig’s British Legion Appeal Fund (later The Royal British Legion). The orginal poppies were made by veterans from crepe paper and sold as a way of raising funds for veterans support. But more importantly, as a simple way to show support of those who have made the ultimate sacrifice in defending freedom across the globe. She also wrote a poem assuring those who sleep we have the torch and are keeping faith.

Oh! you who sleep in Flanders Fields,
Sleep sweet – to rise anew!
We caught the torch you threw
And holding high, we keep the faith
With all who died.

We cherish, too, the poppy red
That grows on fields where valor led;
It seems to signal to the skies
That blood of heroes never dies,
But lends a lustre to the red
Of the flower that blooms above the dead
In Flanders Fields.

And now the torch and poppy red
We wear in honor of our dead.
Fear not that ye have died for naught;
We'll teach the lesson that ye wrought
In Flanders Fields.2

The poppies are getting hard to find. But we can still wear one in our head and heart. And spend a moment or two thinking about holding tightly the torch.


  1. Read the entire story of the significance of the Veterans Day Poppy. ↩︎
  2. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/We_Shall_Keep_the_Faith ↩︎

Good, Better, Best

“Good is the enemy of best.”

A common idiom

While recently attending my grandfather’s grave, I thought about that idiom. I also remembered being in the same place and doing many of the same things some sixty-five years ago with my father. Little did we know it would be one of the last times we’d work together and Dad would be laying next to his father a short month later.

I’m not sure how helpful my seven-year-old self actually was but I felt important and I sensed the work was important. It began with a trip to the cemetery to pick up the metal flag holder. The old flags were removed, a wire brush removed the rust, and fresh black paint was applied. When the holder was reinstalled exactly in the center above the stone, American and British Flags were added. Of course, there was grass to trim and geraniums to plant. It seemed to end with a crisp salute from the foot of the grave with Dad in full dress uniform.

While I remember the steps, what I remember most is how important it was that things be done correctly. I accepted that but I’m not sure I really understood it at the time. I also knew my Dad would be “sergeant at arms” during Memorial Day ceremonies and that meant more work–rifles to clean and polish and lots of practice with his squad. Some years later squad members told me he expected perfection, from keeping in step and moving in perfect unison to hearing “one shot.” They were not complaining; they spoke with pride and a smile.

In retrospect, I appreciate the fact that I was made to feel important and I think I better understand why what we did was important. “Respect” is an important word. We demonstrate our respect by doing our best. I occasionally accept some teasing over the fact I’m not a fan of “good enough” when it comes to certain things. I’ve mellowed some but I still cringe inside if I hear more than one shot at Memorial Day Celebrations.

Distance means I can no longer really maintain my father’s and grandfather’s resting place–other than a rushed annual visit. This year was special. For years, there has been no British flag and things have looked a little lopsided. But this year I found a source for British flags!

I was further motivated by a photo request from the Netherlands where grandfather was born. It seems he will be the subject of an article by Nykle Dijkstra regarding a very few Friesians who served under another country’s flag during World War I. (He’s also included in a chapter of the book: “Far From The Front? Friesland and the Friesians in the First World War.” )

My Dad and I treated him a bit like a celebrity sixty-five years ago. Now others are as well. While by most standards he was not a war hero, perhaps he is finally getting what he deserved –one hundred years later.

With my brother’s help, we repeated many of those steps, including a gentle cleaning of the stone, weeding and trimming and some raking with our hands. We agreed we felt an odd desire to salute when we finished.

And I am left to consider the lessons I learned sixty five years ago in Pine Hill Cemetery, Chester Massachusetts. Good –or at least good enough–is, in fact, the enemy of best. Some things and some people deserve our respect and our best. While offering our respect and our best, we can feel important. And we can learn to respect ourselves.

24/7 access to mental health crisis intervention for VeteranS

The following article is reprinted with permission from an e-newsletter published by Paul Stearns, Maine State Representative for District 119.

As part of the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs’ (VA) efforts to provide the best mental health care access possible, VA is reminding Veterans that it offers all Veterans same-day access to emergency mental health care at any VA health care facility across the country.

“Providing same-day 24/7 access to mental health crisis intervention and support for Veterans, service members and their families is our top clinical priority,” said VA Secretary Robert Wilkie. “It’s important that all Veterans, their family and friends know that help is easily available.”

VA’s Office of Mental Health and Suicide Prevention is the national leader in making high-quality mental health care and suicide prevention resources available to Veterans through a full spectrum of outpatient, inpatient, and telemental health services.

Additionally, VA has developed the National Strategy for Preventing Veteran Suicide, which reflects the department’s vision for a coordinated effort to prevent suicide among all service members and Veterans. This strategy maintains VA’s focus on high-risk individuals in health care settings, while also adopting a broad public health approach to suicide prevention.

VA has supported numerous Veterans and has the capacity to assist more. In fiscal year (FY) 2018, 1.7 million Veterans received Veterans Health Administration (VHA) mental health services. These patients received more than 84,000 psychiatric hospital stays, about 41,700 residential stays and more than 21 million outpatient encounters.

Veterans in crisis – or those concerned about one – should call the Veterans Crisis Line at 800-273-8255 and press 1, send a text message to 838255 or chat online at VeteransCrisisLine.net.

We shall not sleep…

In a strange irony, while searching for a file this morning I found a copy of the remarks I made at the closing of the dedication of Abbot’s Veteran’s Memorial in 2011. It seems appropriate to repost them today.


Several folks have asked me about the poppy I’m wearing today. I won’t take the time to tell you the entire poppy story, but they’ve been around for nearly one hundred years. I would encourage you to learn that story. Many of you probably do know the poem about them.

…to you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders Fields.

I believe when John McCrae penned the last stanza of that famous poem, he was challenging us to fully understand that peace and passion are so closely related they may be inseparable.

The torch we’ve been thrown is about passion. Without passion, there can be no peace.

Let’s truly understand the debt we have to our Veterans—a debt to have the same passion as they did for those things that matter, and a debt to live in the peace their passion made possible.